Being gay in Canada is pretty sweet. I’ve rarely come across much in the way of direct conflict due to my prediliction for the man-on-man. At worst it’s been a conversation killer, mostly causing the extinction of unwanted small talk at work, so hey, hidden bonuses all around. It’s not so fun to be a queer in the States this week, though. As many of you know, Barack Obama’s inauguration is this week, and at a time that should be celebratory for my LGBT kindred south of the border much of the wind is being taken out of their sails.
I’m talking, of course, about Obama’s complete cock-up in terms of the religious pomp that so unfortunately surrounds the Presidential inauguration. First, Obama picks Rick Warren to give the invocation. Rick Warren runs the notoriously homophobic Saddleback Church, and when he was chosen there was much in the way of outcry from the gays in the U.S. Obama’s camp decided to do some damage control and invited gay Episcopelian bishop Gene Robinson to do the pre-inauguration invocation. Then promptly shut off his mic and didn’t include him in the television broadcast. Hmph.
There’s a lot of back-and-forth blame going on right now, between HBO and Obama’s camp, but from what I’ve read around the web, it seems to be the President-elect’s fault that the gays were shut down yet again on the public stage in the States.
This is just fucking confusing to me. Obama keeps regressing further and further away from thinking of the LGBT community as equal. Rick Warren’s speech will likely be spread wide across the Tubes, and I have a feeling that he’ll make some questionable comments about (if not completely and outright condemn) gay marriage. This will be the religious message that people will associate with Obama’s years in office. He should fucking know better, and yet he, like pretty much every other politician, will bow to the will of the religious majority. The regression frightens me. Because I see it happen more and more every day, in the way people speak, on TV, in movies, in politics, and this backswing we’re in could lead to something bad for people like me. Gay is still the punchline, and I cringe when I see people on TV use the same old bullshit to choke a laugh out of middle America. Gay is still a perjorative word, and I’ve even caught my best friend using it recently. It chills me.
I’m making a vow right now that I’m going to get my fucking writing out there, and that shit will be nowhere in it. None of my gay characters are going to die just because. My gay characters, which I know will be naturally included in my works, will not be targets nor will they be cloyingly perfect Uber-queers that couldn’t possibly exist in real life. Just people. Possibly people with super-powers, depending on what I’m writing (GOD guys I’m not made of STONE).
I will listen to Rick Warren’s speech, and Obama’s. I’ll be listening very intently. The gay community of the U.S.A. will be listening, too. They have been. They’ve heard Obama promise to repeal the army’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy, and heard many other promises as well. I hope that they take Obama to task if he fails to deliver on those promises, and I’ll be cheering them on all the way. The minorities in countries have to speak loudest because the have the most to gain and the most to lose, and our governments should WANT to help these people, to protect their rights. That’s why governments exist.
Well, if all of North America gets really bad, I hear Spain is super nice.
January 20, 2009 at 8:08 am
Testify Brother!
January 20, 2009 at 11:40 am
Bush just came out and they’re singing “na na na na hey hey goodbye” haha. awesome.
On the gay note, I too have a tendancy to say “wow thats gay” or something along those lines. I obviously don’t mean any offense, just like how I’ll call something retarded or say jesus christ! without meaning offense to those groups. I think I just need a better vocab if anything.
January 20, 2009 at 12:00 pm
The thing of it is that it shouldn’t be part of your vocab to begin with. Not yours, specifically, but in the vocabulary of the public discourse. That it has so insidiously permeated through common speech just shows how much disregard there is for the LGBT community on the whole. We don’t get to be a “real minority” because our difference from the majority is sexual and thus supposedly voluntary, and as a result mocking the whole group is considered safe. Fuck that shit. I’m not gonna be afraid to call people on it anymore, and if I ever do it myself, I’ll take greater measures to correct my speech.
oh hay luk hilary duff agrees wit me: http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=TVicCD8FmMs.
Thanks for the support, Disney franchise.
January 20, 2009 at 3:36 pm
“Possibly people with super-powers, depending on what I’m writing (GOD guys I’m not made of STONE).”
<3 That is all.
January 20, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Leah – This is the first I’ve heard of it, but it’s really, really good news. As much as I dislike a lot of what Stan Lee has done, his name still carries a lot of weight in the comic book community. I dig.
Luke – (rock) I’m down.
January 20, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Did you hear about the new script Stan Lee is writing for HBO?
January 20, 2009 at 5:15 pm
Somewhere along the lines Gay went from being a good thing to a bad term, agreed. You should totally bring it back. Whenever I’m like “man that was tits.” you should be like “totally gay!”. (rock)
January 21, 2009 at 5:27 am
Paul, i agree that the term “gay” is often used perjoratively, which is indecent and disrespectful by nature. However, like Luke, i know that it occassionally finds its way into my vocab. Does that make me a bad person/friend? Does such a slip make the term any less offensive? These are difficult questions to ask. The simple answer would be no and no. I AM still your good (best) friend, and it IS inappropriate to speak in such a way. But really, this seems like a contradiction. Why would a friend do that to a friend? The answer (and this is what im getting at) is that your problem is with the system, and not with the individual. The unfortunate truth that many people still see gays in a negative light does correspond with the common perjorative usage of the term, a term which has occassionally infiltrated my own vocab, but i think the term has lost some of that hatefulness. So yes, there is something (lots of things really) inherently wrong and hateful ingrained in the system, and i think you are right to oppose that. My concern is that you seem to use these lens, both a broad view of society and a closer view of day-to-day relationships, somewhat interchangeably. You mustn’t let these two perspectives blur, for your own sanity. Even if time can’t reconcile the perjorative usage of the term gay (it will always be perjorative in a sense), just know that most of its current usage is as far removed from that original hatefulness as can be hoped. Time has emptied the term “gay” somewhat, for better and for worse, and society has appropriated the term as it sees fit. So continue to look at society critically, that is important. Just be sure to not look on friends with the same harshly critical eye as society: after all, we are your friends for a reason. Real talk
January 21, 2009 at 10:18 am
Aaron, trust that if I viewed my relationships with my friends the same way I did society that we would not be talking right now. When I said that it chilled me to hear you use the term “gay” perjoratively, it was not at all a slight against you, though my initial reaction to the word might suggest otherwise (hey, we’re only human right?). It got to me because it reminds me that society’s influence can infiltrate our day-to-day existence even if we think ourselves very much separate and protected from it. I don’t think everyone who uses the term “gay” perjoratively is a bad person. Far from it, especially in your case and Luke’s. It’s a kind of micro to macro thing. If people I’m close to who’ve been nothing but accepting of my sexuality use the term, it reminds me that on a more widespread level worse is being said and done to gays near and elsewhere. Unfortunately, I can’t turn that off.
I think my overall goal here isn’t to play some finger-wagging moralist. You and I would both tire of that quickly. I just want to own my role a bit more as a gay man, to not worry so much about how straight-acting I have to be every time I think I might be going over the top, and yes, sometimes to make people recognize that the world at large doesn’t agree with what I am in the majority. So just know that I don’t judge you harshly, and I didn’t take what you said as a slight and “zomg we can’t be friends evar becuz u said a word”. I’m not so irrational. But, you know, micro to macro, sometimes it’s the little things that make you think about the big stuff.